Hello My Beautiful Mamas,
If you’re reading this, you’re either wondering whether you have postpartum depression or you know you do. Either way, I’m here to let you know that it will be okay, even though it hardly feels that way now.
A Little Backstory:
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as a teenager, so when I was pregnant with my first child, I was warned that I was at a higher risk of postpartum depression due to my history. I chose to ignore this information, opting for an “out of sight, out of mind” approach. My daughter was born in March after a traumatic 15-hour labor. After some much-needed rest, I woke up feeling emotions I couldn’t understand. I would stare at my baby, thinking she was so perfect and that I wasn’t good enough. I cried for no reason and was told it was just the baby blues, which should pass within six days or so.
Well, two weeks passed, and I was still feeling off, lost so much weight. I found myself staring at the wall in the shower, contemplating packing a bag and leaving my newborn and husband. My family was unaware of my struggles because I always acted like everything was fine when they came to check on us. I didn’t want anyone to judge me as a mother for feeling this way.
If it weren’t for my experience with depression, it might have hit differently. It was a really bad place to be stuck in. I’d be happy if my advice can help you on your road to recovery:
Ignore Social Media’s Advertised Expectations
This is an important step because scrolling through social media often presents an unrealistic dream. You’ll see overachieving mothers who make cookies on three hours of sleep with a newborn strapped to them or find time to care about the latest trends. This can be damaging and break your self-confidence further. Avoid it and remember that it’s not a realistic representation of life as a mother!
One Day at a Time:
Take it day by day and try to remember that this too shall pass. If you’re a first-time mom, you’re still finding your way in this new role, so take it easy and do not put too much pressure on yourself.
Choose What’s Best for You and Your Baby:
If you’re having trouble breastfeeding—whether it’s due to a tongue-tied baby, not enough milk, or any other reason—make a choice that feels right for you and your baby. If everything is just too much and you decide to formula feed, do not crucify yourself. That will only add to the depression. There is nothing wrong with formula-fed babies; they both end up eating McDonald’s anyway!
No Negative Self-Talk:
Do not ignore this step. I know it’s incredibly hard in moments of despair, but make a point to speak positively to yourself. Bringing yourself down will not help. Practice self-love at all times. You just grew a life inside you—you are absolutely incredible. Don’t forget that!
Go Outside More:
This is a daunting task when you feel depressed, but fresh air can be really beneficial. It helps clear your mind, even if it’s just a small stroll down the street. Small strides every day will make you feel a little better, maybe stop by the shop and spoil yourself with a nice slab of chocolate, some much needed dopamine!
Sleep Is Important:
With a newborn, this step is challenging but possible. Ask your partner or a family member to watch the baby while you take a nap, do not guilt yourself into skipping this step. Otherwise, you’ll be drained, and that can massively impact your mental health as well…
Postpartum depression can be a thief; it robs you of the newborn bliss. However, it also becomes a part of your journey and shapes who you are as a person. There is always a positive side to things, and although it’s tough to see at times, it’s important to keep it in mind. Remember, you will get to the light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong and take it one day at a time.
You are not alone, and it’s okay to seek help. Taking small steps each day can make a big difference. You’ve got this!
Feel free to share your story in the comments below, this is a safe space. Let’s support one another.
What you have overcome and the battles you faced speaks volumes as to how you have overcome them. So Many cam relate. Love this ❤️